Emotions and Inner Life
How can I examine fear of being disliked before rejection has occurred?
English translation draft · Based on the Chinese article. This is not a word-for-word translation approved by Master Shengyuan.
Distinguish actual words and actions from unconfirmed worry. Wanting good work and avoiding offense is understandable. Yet anticipating every possibility negatively exhausts you before events happen.
YOYO described fear of rejection and dislike from school friendships through clients, managers, and colleagues. Even good performance raised fear of seeming attention-seeking. Despite encouragement, she focused on a few negative possibilities and planned responses to imagined scenes.
Actual meetings sometimes revealed satisfaction and gratitude rather than displeasure. Repeated comparisons with events gradually showed added worry. Past rejection genuinely hurt, but one experience need not become every future interaction's ending.
She did not claim one realization ended fear forever. Fear remains, with gradual improvement through practice in particular events. Learn willingness to review actual developments rather than repeatedly trust the most frightening imagined scene.