Relationships
How can I release attachment when someone does not return romantic feelings?
English translation draft · Based on the Chinese article. This is not a word-for-word translation approved by Master Shengyuan.
First recognize that romance needs feelings on both sides. Strong liking does not mean the other person is already your partner. Without returned romantic feeling, adjust your thinking instead of magnifying hope into a belief that they must be with you.
Friendly kindness and shared meals may simply be friendship. A strong need for love can interpret these as special responses. I have encountered people who felt insufficiently loved growing up and later clung harder to relationships. Explore that background rather than require the present person to fill every need.
Loving someone means hoping they are happy. If unwanted pursuit causes distress, ask whether you want their happiness or insist on keeping them beside you. Even when their happiness does not come from you, gradually learn to offer blessings.
Redirect attention toward meaningful things, such as volunteering and helping others. Do not merely move to another person while still insisting on obtaining romance. Other worthwhile commitments gradually show that life without a relationship can continue and include happiness.