When discussing people who died by suicide, what matters in deliverance and care for their families?

I describe the condition of some people who died by suicide through the image of recurring nightmares: being trapped in the fear and attachment of that moment and unable to emerge. This is my understanding through faith. It does not mean heaven is punishing them, and it must not be used to blame relatives by saying that failing to perform a particular rite has made their loved one continue suffering.

Religious help begins by understanding the circumstances, then asking deities and Buddhas to guide the deceased toward release, while also offering those left behind a chance to say goodbye. A mother once asked about her deceased son, expressing much concern and guilt. At such a time, we need to care for family members still in pain as well as the deceased. Circumstances differ, and one perception cannot make every deceased person's experience the same.

The rite known as 'sending off the rice dumpling,' and the handling of ropes and the location, have different local practices and contexts. I share these in discussing settling and purification, not to teach people to copy a story themselves or turn the deceased into a curiosity. Longing can remain while daily life is gradually cared for. Offer support and respect to bereaved people rather than rush them to set down every concern all at once.