Parenting and Family
Does a child’s later success prove earlier hitting and scolding were necessary?
English translation draft · Based on the Chinese article. This is not a word-for-word translation approved by Master Shengyuan.
No. Later achievement does not establish the necessity of earlier harsh treatment. Watching the Michael Jackson film, I was especially moved by childhood beatings and inner fear.
His father was extremely strict, which by present standards might count as domestic violence. Earlier eras, including Taiwan, commonly used hitting and scolding without labeling it that way, though viewed today it would be domestic violence.
Some believe the later superstar required that strictness. I personally disagree. Through my view of life and destiny, he already loved singing and dancing and possessed talent. Paternal pressure seems more like a life obstacle. Success cannot justify ignoring suffering along the way. This is my response and understanding as a viewer, not knowledge of every life detail.
Reflecting on myself, I also fell short. My son was already sad after losing a childhood football match, yet I hurried to criticize his play and he cried. Later, my regret concerned not losing the game but my impatience and desire to win instead of accompanying him well.
The same situation can receive criticism or encouragement. Wanting improvement requires examining our speech and relationships. Do not demand performance without seeing what children bear, or use possible future success to justify hurtful treatment now.