Communication and Boundaries
If I did not intend harassment and only gave someone a pat or touch, must I still examine my behavior?
English translation draft · Based on the Chinese article. This is not a word-for-word translation approved by Master Shengyuan.
You cannot brush aside your actions simply by saying, 'I did not mean it that way.' What matters is what you actually did and whether you violated the other person's bodily boundaries, not only your explanation of your motive.
I discussed a news controversy about an internet personality's inappropriate touching. My main reminder was that the person initially kept emphasizing no intention to harass without seriously examining the behavior itself. If you only think that others never complained and wonder why this person is unhappy, you can easily shift the problem onto the person protesting.
Consider it from another position: would you feel uncomfortable if someone touched your partner, mother, or daughter that way? If you cannot accept it, do not treat others like that. Once you know it is wrong, change the behavior. Recording one apology video does not mean everything has been adequately addressed.