Relationships
Must I accept a partner’s offer to arrange my work and life?
English translation draft · Based on the Chinese article. This is not a word-for-word translation approved by Master Shengyuan.
Not necessarily. Consider whether you genuinely want it and whether this way of relating suits you. Some like a partner arranging things and willingly cooperate. Others have their own goals and want freedom of choice. The same arrangement can feel entirely different to different people.
I met a client who planned work for his wife. Thinking teaching suited her, he arranged things in that direction and also considered opening a shop for her to work in. As I understood it then, she had no particular wish for a different path, willingly cooperated, and they got along well. But when I asked friends whether they could accept a capable partner planning their whole life, some said yes, while others wanted to pursue their own interests and retain freedom.
Choosing a partner therefore involves more than whether they can arrange things for you. Ask whether this is the life you want. In discussing complementarity, I mean cooperation in leading and supporting. Either the man or the woman may lead; women are not all required to take a submissive role. If you have strong ideas but the other person wants to decide everything, recognize that difference clearly. Favorable qualifications alone do not guarantee a harmonious relationship.