Relationships
Does giving someone a fresh start mean I must accept them as a partner?
English translation draft · Based on the Chinese article. This is not a word-for-word translation approved by Master Shengyuan.
Not necessarily. Giving someone an opportunity to change and accepting their romantic pursuit are different. You can refuse to treat past mistakes as a lifelong judgment and still choose not to date them.
When discussing an entertainer’s return to work, I felt that, if he genuinely wished to change and do his work seriously, we could watch his subsequent conduct and allow another opportunity to make an effort. But when I asked a fellow practitioner whether she would accept romantic pursuit from such a person, her answer remained no.
People care about different things. Some cannot accept the person’s past; others consider it over and are willing to examine present conduct. Dating returns to your own views and choices. Allowing someone to work and live anew does not require becoming their partner yourself.