If everyone says to forgive and let it go, can I still point out the wrongdoing?

Yes. Others saying to let it go and forgive does not prevent you pointing out what was wrong. Compassion also requires distinguishing right from wrong. Everyone wanting a quick end to the matter cannot mean refusing even to explain the mistake.

A fellow practitioner gave an example of group discussion: once someone pleads for the wrongdoer, others may follow in agreement. People who originally felt something was inappropriate may then hesitate to speak. I said that when something is truly wrong, we still need courage to identify it. Fear of controversy is not a reason to join everyone in saying it does not matter.

This is also why I mentioned allowing wrongdoing to grow through excessive indulgence. If we only say not to take issue with it, without explaining that the behaviour is wrong, it may be repeatedly excused. Understanding a person and failing to respond to their mistakes are not the same thing.

When facing malicious, persistent verbal attacks, I also support the person harmed in expressing their views and taking appropriate action to protect their rights. Where explanation is needed, clearly state the events, your position and the rights you wish to uphold. At the same time, watch your own response. Do not return the same harmful speech through insults or personal attacks.

If the matter has already received a constructive response, reconsider what still needs handling and what is merely a wish to win an argument. Where forgiveness is possible and the impact can be assessed, let the negative emotions end here. But necessary explanations can still be offered publicly. This prevents us becoming so occupied with trading insults that we forget the original issue.