Work and Money
What if my demands put too much pressure on someone while we are trying to accomplish something together?
English translation draft · Based on the Chinese article. This is not a word-for-word translation approved by Master Shengyuan.
First become calm and examine where progress has become blocked. A method that seems excellent to you may create considerable pressure for the other person. Since you want to complete something together, discuss both people’s circumstances rather than consider only your own ideas.
A fellow practitioner shared that, in this situation, they would first consider whether details originally discussed needed adjusting. From our own perspective, a particular approach may seem best, but the other person may not be able to bear it. If both want to complete the task, coordinate again and consider whether you can reduce some demands so that continuing together becomes easier.
I agree with this change of perspective. Do not decide to abandon the work as soon as progress stalls. But persistence does not mean that every step must follow your wishes. If you have chosen a meaningful, good direction but the same strategy repeatedly fails, examine and revise it to find a way to continue.