Can I use a partner’s hair or nails in a harmony ritual to make them love me more?

I would not treat that as a way to nurture a relationship. If you want to use something from the other person’s body to deepen a connection and make them love you more, first pause and examine whether you are becoming too intent on keeping them with you.

When the programme discussed news of someone eating ashes, someone thought of using a partner’s hair to strengthen a connection. I then mentioned accounts of harmony rituals and harmful magic using nails or hair as a reminder to judge wisely. I was not presenting a method for people to follow.

Loss in love is painful. Yet precisely at such times we need to consider how to move beyond the pain, rather than think only about holding the person more tightly. Talking with someone and gradually changing our perspective is a different direction from deepening attachment through such practices.

In a later discussion of harmony rituals, I also distinguished different situations. Trying to use an external force to pull in someone with whom the connection was not originally so deep differs from an existing marriage in which people hope to strengthen the couple’s bond. In the latter situation, I spoke of possible help, not a guarantee that every couple undergoing a ritual will reconcile.

I once heard another teacher describe using a ritual to make someone dream and temporarily develop feelings. That was the teacher’s account, not steps I was recommending people follow. Relationships involve the wishes of two people. A temporary feeling produced by external influence still differs from two people genuinely being able to live well together over time.