Parenting and Family
Does not being taken by a parent after divorce mean they did not love me?
English translation draft · Based on the Chinese article. This is not a word-for-word translation approved by Master Shengyuan.
That fact alone cannot reveal all a parent's intentions. A child's sadness and abandonment feelings are real, while unexplained adult considerations may lead them to grow up with another interpretation.
Miao Nian described a girl much loved by her father, who took her older sister after divorce but not her. She could not understand why he did not want her. According to Miao Nian's later understanding, he feared hardship and thought the younger daughter would be happier with her mother.
We discussed the difference between events and interpretations. Explanation then might have prevented the misunderstanding. Not every departure shares that reason. Explore unclear parts of relationships rather than retain one conclusion that continually hurts.