Relationships
Why face your own answer before seeking relationship advice or divination?
English translation draft · Based on the Chinese article. This is not a word-for-word translation approved by Master Shengyuan.
Some people asking about a relationship already have an answer in mind. They may not yet want to acknowledge it, or they hope the teacher will say what they want to hear. Unless they first understand their own thoughts, a divination consultation may still leave them circling around the original expectation.
Before asking, consider whether you truly want to understand the relationship or have already decided what to do and simply want approval. I have met clients whose plans were already arranged, which only became clear after we discussed the problem and I explained my advice. Their consultation was intended to see whether the reading agreed with their own view.
Divination can provide a reference, but the eventual choice remains yours. If a relationship reading is unfavorable, for example, I will remind you that continuing may be difficult. You can still choose to stay together, while understanding the choice you are making. How you relate afterward remains something you must personally face.
Teachers providing readings must also be honest. When a client entrusts you with an answer, explain the result you actually received rather than select only pleasing words. The reference becomes meaningful when the questioner faces their own thoughts and the person answering describes the result truthfully.