How can I adjust if strong principles make me angry whenever others do things differently?

Principles are good, but distinguish doing something well from demanding everyone follow your steps. Events departing from expectations are not necessarily terrible. Examine the actual result first, then decide where firmness or flexibility is needed.

Miao Qing shared that, earlier, she valued rules strongly and felt unable to accept others acting differently from what she considered right, becoming angry easily. Gradually she saw that people think differently and sometimes both must take a step back to complete things well. She learned this over time in practice and work. Her personality did not immediately improve on joining.

Do not reject a new proposal as impossible before trying. Sometimes we are simply accustomed to the old method or unwilling to spend effort experimenting. Trying another perspective reveals results and may teach something previously unknown.

Relaxing your attitude does not mean preparing nothing. I have also said planning still requires anticipating difficulties, preparing alternatives and adjusting factors that may cause failure. After preparation, do not decide you must fail before anything happens.

When a similar situation returns, examine your response and whether the emotions differ from before. Through faith, I understand some experiences as opportunities from deities to learn again. But reflection and changed behaviour remain ours to undertake. Not every difficulty can directly be identified as a specially arranged divine test.